I’m a very happy person. I wake up in the morning and I’m happy to see the day. I go to sleep at night and I dream happy dreams. I spend most of my days alternating between laughter and “oh my god, this is amazing” levels of wonder. I’m not content, or fulfilled, or satisfied… but I am happy. I don’t get stressed, I never feel bad or annoyed with myself and any grievances or frustrations that crop up in life are very short-lived. People often say “why are you so happy?” and I don’t have one single answer, I just live a very happy life.
I recently read a post about being unhappy… I’ve never felt bad for no reason at all and it made me feel upset that there might be people out there going around feeling sad or moody or lonely, when in my experience it’s possible to avoid all that. So I’ve been trying to think about the things that contribute to my happiness. 1. Surround yourself with things that make you happy. My room is filled with Moomins, crowns, sequinned clothing, musical instruments and pictures of Jimi Hendrix. These represent my favourite things and every time I go in it’s like a mini “yay!”.
2. Surround yourself with people that make you happy. Kind of the same as the last point! I’m very happy with the people in my life; most of them inspire me or at least amuse me. I don’t hang on to the boring or mean people and consequently all the people I know now I really cherish.
3. Find things funny. I spend about 50% of my waking hours laughing. I find everything funny; I’m a simple girl really and most of the things that could be stressful or worrying I find funny. The main thing I find funny is myself; my lack of girl knowledge, my hilarious clothing collection, my past efforts at blogs/songs/photography, the stupid things I do as part of my job (building elephants out of cardboard, listening to every recording of The Muppets and choreographing a dance to Ghostbusters are all things I did today). If you can find yourself funny you’re literally laughing your way through life.
4. See how lucky you are. It sounds corny but at least twice a week I’ll look around and just think “this place is awesome, these people are awesome, my job is awesome, this is great” and feel lucky. We have so, so much to be thankful for. I look back at my horrifically lonely, turbulent teenage years and I think “God, teenage Laila, you got the life you always wanted and deserved, well done you”.
5. Eat properly. Just eating 3 meals a day and sleeping 8 hours a night can make so much difference. If you regularly feel unhappy, try doing this for two weeks and you’ll be astonished at the difference it makes. Also: tell people you are doing this. Your friends love you (and if they’re anything like mine will call you up to make sure you are going to sleep at a good hour/bring you home cooked meals). 6. Incorporate the things you love into your life. It depresses me when people talk about things they enjoy as a seperate bit of their life. I love stupid clothes, going out for breakfast, making music and rehearsing with friends… so I include all these things in my day to day life.
7. Change whatever is making you sad. Seriously, just grow a pair and do it. Change jobs, cut your hair, call out the mean talk, whatever it is just figure out what it is and attack it as simply as possible. People go on about these things being hard and waiting for a good time to make changes that will make them happy. Here’s the thing; the sooner you do it the sooner it will make you happy. Don’t wait for things to reach boiling point or some mythical far-off date when things will be better; actively fight for that NOW. Time is precious.
8. Don’t do things that make you sad. Don’t wallow in your own misery or get out the box of your ex-boyfriends clothes or watch back a film that knowingly makes you cry. Some people may find they enjoy being sad sometimes but seriously I like to reserve my sadness for the things that are truly, unstoppably sad.
9. Have more confidence! I tell you honestly; the world wants to be your friend. Go out there and say hello.
10. The sun will rise tomorrow. As my Dad once told a very heartbroken and depressed Laila; the sun will rise again tomorrow. If you’re seriously in the midst of despair and nothing and nobody will comfort you, then go to sleep and know that tomorrow, the entire world will be new. A quick poll of my office and these are apparently the phrases I use most often:
“OH MY GOD THAT’S AMAZING”
“OH MY GOD I LOVE YOU”
I think that pretty much sums up my attitude to life; be impressed by things, be grateful for things, go after life and take what you want from it and most of all don’t worry, be happy, f*ck it, it will sort itself out in the end. Here’s to happiness!
14 thoughts on “How To Be Happy”
You DO say yay a lot I’ve noticed! Can I just take this opportunity to say that getting to know you irl has been awesome Laila for all these reasons, you seem so happy and confident and it’s genuinely infectious! I think these tips will really help so many people including myself. I have always been a little self conscious and insecure, and I for one would love to see a post on how to make friends, as well as maybe another one from you on confidence, because I’ve honestly been totally blown away by your confidence and your ability to make friends with everyone! However, I would like you to share more Laila wisdom such as ‘I only like good men’ and ‘why can’t everyone just be nice to everyone else’ :D xx
I love your positive vibes – I definitely need to remember some of these points more.
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Haha love the phrases they say you use a lot. I think it’s so important to definitely take a moment at least every week and just think about everything that you have and be thankful for it all…even the little things!
This is a lovely post! I do still have bad days sometimes, usually when something goes wrong and I’m trying to figure out how to fix it. But generally I’m a much happier person than I was a couple of years ago. I used to be quite pessimistic and I would think about all the things that could go wrong in any given situation so I wouldn’t be so disappointed if it then did go wrong. I suppose it was a time in my life when I wasn’t very confident and I was constantly in protection mode. What I didn’t realise at the time was how much that thought process was dragging me down. Thankfully I started actively looking for the good things all the time, and thinking about how great things could be and that they must be achievable somehow. There are wonderful and beautiful things everywhere, they’re difficult to see sometimes, but they’re always there and I find that very comforting xx
not lame is the slightest but very inspiring. simply be happy, there are so many reasons to be. i can easily forget this. I love your attitude :) i think happiness is the most important, as well as health and just being a generally good person lol. the world wants to be your friend.. what a quote! :)
Brilliant post. It’s much better to focus on the positives and embrace life.
I absolutely love this post!! It relates to me a lot, i’m so excitable and its so easy to find the good in things.
this post was awesome simple things but it’s nice to be reminded sometimes! I have kinda been grumpy lately and I decided this week I was really going to make an effort to choose to be happy and stay positive and be grateful and not put so much pressure on myself :) and YES a post on making friends would also be great it’s nice to be reminded in our technology laden society that there is something to be said for face to face interaction and taking time to invest in relationships
So good. This doesn’t feel cliche at all because it feels honest.
I love this, “I think that pretty much sums up my attitude to life; be impressed by things, be grateful for things, go after life and take what you want from it and most of all don’t worry, be happy, f*ck it, it will sort itself out in the end.”
Thank you so much for sharing this! I would consider myself to be very “emotional” so I’m very excitable and usually happy, but it takes something really small to take me to the other extreme as well. These are such simple things that I’m sure make a huge difference!
♥ perfectly Priya
Thank you Priya! I am so glad you enjoyed the post. :) X
I really liked this post! I have gone through times when I’ve been super happy and bubbly on the outside, but no one in my life knew that internally I was very sad and depressed. I think all 12 points you made are so important, but the one that resonated with me the most would be #7. I love how you said to just grow a pair and do it! Honestly, it’s just that easy, yet hard at the same time. But once you do it, you will seriously be like why didn’t I make the change sooner. And #5 is something my Dad is always reminding me of too. Eat, Sleep, and Exercise! I think it makes a huge difference in your mood.
Thank you for sharing this post! :)