My Dad and I have always had a very strange relationship. We lived apart for a long time, he’s never understood my creative bent and we have had extremely different upbringings in almost completely opposing cultures and classes. But as I get older I see the similarities between us. We are both critics, tough, precious with our time and complete workaholics. I frequently look at my Dad for reasons to stop and take more breaks; he is a constantly exhausted night-owl and just a few years into my professional life I’m exactly the same.
Despite being so serious, my earliest recollections of my Dad are of him making people laugh. I think my Dad has always been “the funny one” in all of his circles, and from a young age I’ve seen him use humour not just to entertain but to diffuse tension, bring people together and make people feel comfortable. As a small child, all I can remember thinking is “when I’m older I want to be funny like Dad”. Not smart, beautiful, attractive, rich, famous or anything: just funny. I wouldn’t say I can match him for laugh-a-minute, but I get the occasional gag in where I can.
My Dad was quite hands off when I was growing up. As I get older, I realise that although I’m his first biological child, he has been stepping in and helping to “father” all sorts of people in the years before I came along; cousins, nephews and nieces, family friends, neighbours. He’s a calm listener, and his brain works in a very methodical and logical way – so his advice is always measured and rarely complicated by emotion. It’s another trait I’d like to inherit. I think I get my blunt honesty from him, but I’m not yet as well-tempered or patient as he is.
On our recent trip to Mauritius I saw him taking up the head of the family role: we’re not all together very much, but in many ways he’s a natural leader and patriarch. I’m grateful to have him in my life. Happy birthday, Dad!
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What a lovely tribute. Happy Birthday!
This was such a lovely read and such a heartfelt post. Our relationships with our parents are always complicated, but it is great that you can see so many positive qualities in him. Wishing your father a happy birthday!
Rae | Love from Berlin
Say happy birthday to him on my behalf….. Awesome piece!👍👍
My dad died last year. A week is left, for his first death anniversary and reading this has made me long for mine. :(
I’m sorry to read about this. I hope you are alright and sending my thoughts and comfort to you. x
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It’s somehow or why somehow, for me really an emotional post and I can only say so nice that you know that his role is important and that you have him in your life! Happy birthday to your dad, yes!
What?! There’s a Moomin shop in Covent Garden?! Why did no one tell me about this? Why have I not seen this before?! I love Moomins!!!!!!!
I LOVE Covent Garden!! Your pictures look so pretty!
Hahaha! It’s my favourite place I swear xx